ANJELICA MALONE
DOULA & LACTATION EDUCATOR

When we think of Mother's Day now, what comes to mind is more than our own mothers or ourselves, but the community of support around motherhood that seems to get stronger (thank goodness) and more integral to our lives every year. We think of women like Anjelica Malone, a birth and postpartum doula, certified Lactation Education Counselor (CLEC), and all-around fount of mama wisdom and wellness who never fails to encourage and inspire. (Her book on breastfeeding, Milk Boss 101, is a must-read.) Anjelica and her husband—who's active-duty in the Coast Guard—recently moved to Seattle from Guam with their two young daughters, and she's quickly established a devoted following of new moms and moms-to-be drawn to her warmth, honesty, and unfailing support. (Not to mention her adorable sense of humor.) In celebration of all mothers, we asked Anjelica to share some of her pearls of wisdom.

BEFORE YOU BECAME A PERINATAL EDUCATOR AND DOULA, YOU WERE IN THE COAST GUARD. HOW DID YOU FIND YOUR PATH?

I always wanted to work in the medical field, I just didn't know in what capacity. I joined the Coast Guard, and it was probably the best decision I made. I was a corpsman, so I worked on a ship. I’d be out for 3 months at a time, caring for about 160 crew members. What I realized was that I really enjoyed working with all the people I got to see, but women were special. They really wanted to form a bond and a relationship with the person providing care for them. Then we moved to Puerto Rico, and during that time my life was changed. Mothers [there] were mothering in a way that seemed like an extension of who they were...their children were a part of the world they had already created. I became a lactation educator and began providing home visits. I did the same thing on Guam, and realized that was what I wanted to do. Now we’re in Seattle and I’m preparing to become a midwife.

WHAT IS ON YOUR NIGHTSTAND?

Something that’s always near me in bed is a good book, absolutely. Or a journal, because I'm always writing notes, whether it’s to clear my mind, or think of a new idea, or something I want to start. I’ve recently really loved essential oil diffusers. That’s really simple to bring in, you can stick it in a corner if there's no room on your nightstand. It really makes the room feel more spa-like. 

WHAT ARE YOUR THOUGHTS ON CO-SLEEPING?

My girls did co-sleep with us for the first two years of their lives. There was a point in time when there were 4 of us in our bed—that’s why we have a King-size bed! Studies do show that babies sleeping in close proximity to their parents have a low risk of SIDS, but you want to make sure you’re doing it correctly. 

At about the time our oldest was 4 years old and our youngest was 2, they moved into their own bed. They sleep together and have what we call a sibling bed. So they went from being in a bed with their whole family to being in a bed together, and the transition was EASY.

DO YOU HAVE ANY TIPS FOR WINDING DOWN AT NIGHT? WHAT IS YOUR BEDTIME RITUAL?

My bedtime ritual involves turning down the lights and limiting the noise; turning off all of the extra music unless it's soothing music or nature sounds. Trying not to eat anything too heavy right before bed, so you can actually rest and relax. Drinking something warm and without sugar, preferably. (You don’t want that energy rush right before bed.) I grab a cup of tea. I love herbal teas. I like to do a mix of camomile, oat straw, lady’s mantle and nettle.

EVERYONE IS TALKING ABOUT SELF-CARE, BUT IT'S SO DIFFICULT FOR MOMS TO FIND THE TIME. WHAT'S YOUR TAKE?

Self-care is extremely important. There’s no way you can give to anyone else if you’re feeling depleted. I always like to break it up into daily, weekly and monthly self-care. For daily self-care, that’s like the tea time ritual every evening. A weekly self-care ritual should involve something where you are outside the house, so for me that’s barre3, that’s going out for coffee or drinks with friends. A monthly self-care plan is one where you actually go and do something that is nourishing to yourself. This could be going to get your nails done, getting a facial—something where you’re actually feeding back into yourself.  

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